What is Love?

8 Nov

What is love? An age old question, many a theorists and artists have attempted to define and depict it, but none managed to provide one definite answer. We use the word at least once everyday, usually with a coy smile or a warm, buttery feeling inside. None of us can solve the mystery of it, yet we all have pined for it, chased it, tried to avoid it, and reveled in its glorious charm at some point in our lives. I don’t know what love is either, but I do know what it is NOT.

Love is not a story of happily ever after. Love is not about Prince Charmings. Love is not perfect harmony between two people. Love is not about knowing exactly what the other person wants. Love is not about remembering every birthday or anniversary. Love is not about never having fights. Love is not a promise of forever and ever.

But maybe.

Love is you holding her handbag proudly walking down the road just because she’s tired. Love is you buying him a t-shirt even when you have your heart set on that cute top. Love is you kissing her in a comedy movie because you find that high pitched cackle of hers so endearing. Love is you eating the sour litchis and saving him the sweet ones. Love is you walking over to hug her at a party just because. Love is saving up on lunch money to buy phone credit when you are continents apart.

However, this is not a guide for true love. Nor is it a checklist to determine your Perfect One. These are not the signs you need to look out for, for eternal love. You may have all of this, and yet have Love show you the red card. I know I did. Instead, this is for us to understand that love manifests itself in its greatest intensity in these fleeting moments. Embrace it. Feel loved. Let it fill you up with warm sunshine and replenish your soul. And when it goes away, do not run after it, do not pout and tell your partner that the love is missing. For the more you hanker after it, the farther it gets. It is for us to seek comfort in the idea that it will return soon, maybe in another form, maybe from another person. Love is not the person, it is the feeling. Love is not your partner, it is these moments they gave you. We do not yearn for the person, we yearn for the psychotic happiness we felt with them. And it is this very realization that sets us free, loosening us from the shackles of fear, loss, grief and loneliness.

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3 Responses to “What is Love?”

  1. Srishti Jain November 10, 2013 at 4:43 pm #

    i luv reading wat u write sis!!! naice wrk

  2. Nicholas May 14, 2014 at 8:55 am #

    love is willingly sharing your ice-cream ;D

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